Wedding planning should be joyous, but it’s often stressful too. There are a million details to keep track of, and couples often pressure themselves to get everything “perfect.”

Sooner or later it can start to feel like the wedding is taking over your entire life.

Yet weddings don’t have to be stressful. Take a breath, and use these 5 simple tips to help you manage wedding stress.

Give Yourself Plenty of Time

The average couple plans their wedding for over a year. Sure, you can do a whirlwind wedding that takes just 6 months to plan, but why would you subject yourself to that kind of stress?

Instead, get a wedding checklist, one that gives you a time frame for each task. Once you’ve checked all the tasks for the month off of your list, move on and do other things. Enjoy some down time and don’t think about the wedding until it’s time to pick up next month’s tasks.

Organization is Everything

Consider either creating a wedding binder where you’ll keep all the information in one place, or taking advantage of an online project management tool like Asana, Trello, or Basecamp.

You’ll feel much more in control when you can see everything in one place, down to the contact information for various vendors and the copies of the receipts.

Let People Help You

Your impulse may be to try to do everything yourself. Yet if there are people in your life who want to help you then you can cut your stress by letting them.

Sure, it may feel sometimes like your parent or your parent-in-law is trying to take control. You can eliminate this feeling by assigning them one task at a time. Don’t care that much about choosing napkins and flowers? Assign that to the parent who loves mixing and matching colors and who can actually tell a peony from a petunia, while reserving the things you really do care about for you and your spouse-to-be.

Create a Budget

It’s really easy for wedding costs to get out of control. The average wedding costs nearly $40,000, which means you can bankrupt yourself before your marriage even starts if you’re not careful.

Instead, decide how much you’ll spend on the wedding and make the planning fit the budget. If you’ve only got $6000 then you know you need to limit your guest list, find a nearly-free venue, and rent your wedding clothes.

Knowing exactly how much you have to spend lets you feel in control, knowing that you’re not going to be stuck with a big bill at the end of the road.

Keep the Wedding in Perspective

Unrealistic expectations can cause way more wedding stress than anything else. Remember, your wedding is not your marriage. It’s a celebration of your union with the people you love most. It’s a single day out of a lifetime.

Of course you want that day to be filled with friends, family, laughter, and good memories. Yet that means that a mix-ups with flower deliveries or a chipped nail or two aren’t the end of the world. They’re incidents you’ll barely think about after the wedding is through.

Treat it like the ceremony and party it’s meant to be, and focus on the many good years ahead. You’ll be less stressed over blips in the process, and will be ready to enjoy your big day more.